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Which Widows Ring?
Dear WidowsRing,
two questions
first is this for a widow or the band style
second how long usually does the gold last and do you redip with gold plate? well that is three questions I don't know if I should get this one I would have to wear on my right hand the band I could wear over my wedding ring what did you do?
Dear jackandtommysmom
For a widow that wants to continue to wear her wedding rings, the thin eternity bands fit nicely next to those rings.
The journey ring also fits well.
The wider bands are best worn alone to replace the wedding rings when it feels right to remove them, or you do not want an empty finger or to appear as if your are single.
The solitaire is designed to wear alone, but many wear them with their other rings.
I have worn every ring that I offer and each has something to say.
When I 1st started looking for a widows ring for myself, my sister asked me "What does the Widows Ring look like?
I knew at that moment that there is no 1 ring for everyone, but there needed to be choices, as each person has their own journey of grief to walk and that journey is different for each of us.
The rings speak to us differently so what I would do is not what you should do-follow your heart.
The rings are so inexpensive, because I want them where they will be loved.
But there is absolutely no reason not to have more than one- which is what I did and continue to do-.
Today(5years a widow) I am wearing the sterling silver Broken Heart where my engagement ring once was, and next to it sits the all black 3-4mm eternity ring.
On my right hand, in memory of mom and dad is the red Broken Heart with the black band.
Last week I wore the ALWAYS IN MY HEART & SOUL RING on my thumb, with the HEART of Steel on my ring finger.
And no, I am not a gypsy .. but I wear each one, and each has a different feel.
You will know you made the right choice -when you put on your ring the 1st time - you look at it and sigh.
In a few moments you will begin to breathe .. which you have not done in awhile. And it just feels right.
The plating is the thickest available. Most jewelry only has 7-9mmg, while mine is over 30mmg. It does wear off but not for awhile, and with proper care the plating could last for about a year. They can be replated and there is a solution available to do it at home.
Diane
Dear widowsring,
Thank you so much as I cannot take off my rings if I wanted to (I am still swollen with fluid from having my son who is almost two I have lost seventy pounds of water but still holding had to take it off for a while but the first time I got it back on could not get it back off) I like the eternity band but think it may not fit on my low setting I am going to give this ring to my older son to put in a safety deposit box for when he gets married when I can take it off. I thought I could wear this one on my left hand ring finger I will get the other once I can take off my diamond. I think this will be the one for me. Oh, do you have a regular site?
Thank you,
jackandtommysmom, kate, a friend in grief.
I never thought you where a gypsy must have been someone else
two questions
first is this for a widow or the band style
second how long usually does the gold last and do you redip with gold plate? well that is three questions I don't know if I should get this one I would have to wear on my right hand the band I could wear over my wedding ring what did you do?
- jackandtommysmom
Dear jackandtommysmom
For a widow that wants to continue to wear her wedding rings, the thin eternity bands fit nicely next to those rings.
The journey ring also fits well.
The wider bands are best worn alone to replace the wedding rings when it feels right to remove them, or you do not want an empty finger or to appear as if your are single.
The solitaire is designed to wear alone, but many wear them with their other rings.
I have worn every ring that I offer and each has something to say.
When I 1st started looking for a widows ring for myself, my sister asked me "What does the Widows Ring look like?
I knew at that moment that there is no 1 ring for everyone, but there needed to be choices, as each person has their own journey of grief to walk and that journey is different for each of us.
The rings speak to us differently so what I would do is not what you should do-follow your heart.
The rings are so inexpensive, because I want them where they will be loved.
But there is absolutely no reason not to have more than one- which is what I did and continue to do-.
Today(5years a widow) I am wearing the sterling silver Broken Heart where my engagement ring once was, and next to it sits the all black 3-4mm eternity ring.
On my right hand, in memory of mom and dad is the red Broken Heart with the black band.
Last week I wore the ALWAYS IN MY HEART & SOUL RING on my thumb, with the HEART of Steel on my ring finger.
And no, I am not a gypsy .. but I wear each one, and each has a different feel.
You will know you made the right choice -when you put on your ring the 1st time - you look at it and sigh.
In a few moments you will begin to breathe .. which you have not done in awhile. And it just feels right.
The plating is the thickest available. Most jewelry only has 7-9mmg, while mine is over 30mmg. It does wear off but not for awhile, and with proper care the plating could last for about a year. They can be replated and there is a solution available to do it at home.
Diane
Dear widowsring,
Thank you so much as I cannot take off my rings if I wanted to (I am still swollen with fluid from having my son who is almost two I have lost seventy pounds of water but still holding had to take it off for a while but the first time I got it back on could not get it back off) I like the eternity band but think it may not fit on my low setting I am going to give this ring to my older son to put in a safety deposit box for when he gets married when I can take it off. I thought I could wear this one on my left hand ring finger I will get the other once I can take off my diamond. I think this will be the one for me. Oh, do you have a regular site?
Thank you,
jackandtommysmom, kate, a friend in grief.
I never thought you where a gypsy must have been someone else
You were wed
When another person holds the key to your heart and soul, they understand and support you, they make you a better person, and you fit together like puzzel pieces - should anyone devalue that precious time you were given?
You were wed, melded, and joined by mutual feelings.
The computer age has its drawbacks but miraculously it has the ability to find others that feel just as you do.
Please check out this blog. Greggieswifey , you will find kindred spirits.
Today- 6 on a scale of 1-10
Never used the blog before, but I a confident that noone will read this - so am just going to use it as a diary and work space for the new designs,
Worked on cropping photos until 2:30 today. This batch is more like Amazon wanted. I spent most of the morning yesterday taking them. and cropping, Yesterday's batch had over 300.
Got an email from Pat and she thinks the new and revised website is just awful.
So worked on the web site as well. I must say I like it.
While I spoke to customer service (TY Jessica) at godaddy to revert the wevsite she said I should use this dAammed BLOG.
Glenn sent email of artist rendering of new steel ring. I like it - it is my Broken Circle ring with hearts (2) on each end with a bezel gem in the middle.I will like it without the gem.
Daughter came over for a microwave = I gave her mine.
Have not heard from Jen's Look, the NY photographer.
Have not sent Michelles rings
Need to reply to email. I will fo to both Camp Widow sites.
She is will to take a % of the sales instead of $300 vendor fee for each day.
I will be able to add cards/ brochures to welcome packet.
And I will be in the bookstore.
Got the nicestest comment on ebay.
Have not sent IJD samples for photography.
Vista print said brochures are on the way.
Maybe will read the mail tomorrow.
Good night hun,
Worked on cropping photos until 2:30 today. This batch is more like Amazon wanted. I spent most of the morning yesterday taking them. and cropping, Yesterday's batch had over 300.
Got an email from Pat and she thinks the new and revised website is just awful.
So worked on the web site as well. I must say I like it.
While I spoke to customer service (TY Jessica) at godaddy to revert the wevsite she said I should use this dAammed BLOG.
Glenn sent email of artist rendering of new steel ring. I like it - it is my Broken Circle ring with hearts (2) on each end with a bezel gem in the middle.I will like it without the gem.
Daughter came over for a microwave = I gave her mine.
Have not heard from Jen's Look, the NY photographer.
Have not sent Michelles rings
Need to reply to email. I will fo to both Camp Widow sites.
She is will to take a % of the sales instead of $300 vendor fee for each day.
I will be able to add cards/ brochures to welcome packet.
And I will be in the bookstore.
Got the nicestest comment on ebay.
| Dear widowsring, I've already left feedback but they just don't leave enough room to say what all I feel. I just wanted to personally thank you for everything you've done with my purchase. Your communication was great and shipping...it actually came a day earlier then I expected and that was only 3 days! The box for the ring took my breath away when I opened it as I never expected a rose. As for the ring, it is absolutely beautiful. As we know, one of the hardest things to do is to take your rings off. This ring you designed really will express my feelings and help to take away the emptiness. I've only had it on for today but I found myself looking at it every chance I got. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for not only designing such a beautiful, meaningful ring, but for such wonderful, sincere service that you gave to me from start to finish with my order. Thank you! - jspur10 |
Have not sent IJD samples for photography.
Vista print said brochures are on the way.
Maybe will read the mail tomorrow.
Good night hun,
Why I designed a widows ring.
Hello. You have reached my web page. My name is Diane I am a now widow and I will share you my concept of a Widow's Ring.
Although I was a hospice nurse and thought I understood the burden of loss, I did not expect an amputation of my soul with his death. I did not expect the abyss, the constant loneliness, the separation from all our friends and family. I did not accept the urging from the counselors, the family, the friends, the co-workers to accept the inevitable, to get the grieving done, to "move on". It meant to me - FORGET.
I would not, could not erase him from my heart and mind and soul. I will always remember - he remains a part of me.
The 1st time I checked off the box [ ] widow- my world crashed. I understood complete solitude - I was NOT married anymore. So what did the rings he had placed on my finger mean? Should I wear a wedding ring when I was not wed?, should I remove them and bury them in a box ? Should I wait for a year to have a barren, empty, lonley finger as well as my life?
No... I will not !
What made sense to me, what was right for me may not be an answer for anyone else.
What I NEEDED was something tangible, touchable, visible and with me constantly, something I would wear as long as I felt the need. Something that held the love, the commitment, something eternal that did not end.
I envisioned a mourning ring, a ring in memory of our love, a ring that showed "Gone was not Forgotten", a symbol that endured into eternity, that showed the continuing grief, that showed Who I was now. I had lost a partner, a love, a friend in this life and I had lost myself. Didn't he deserve more than "moving on?"
My search took months, of endless tearful nights on the internet (you can find anything on the internet). I searched "widow ring" - and got endless Halloween spider rings, a reference to a widows "mite' ring". I searched "mourning jewelry" and found antique and expensive mementos of a Victorian Era. I search "grief", "my husband died", "I am a widow now", "what now", "what do I do about my rings". I found nothing to signify that a marriage and our life together had suffered a terminal ending.
What should a Grieving Ring look like?
I wanted a ring- a black ring, maybe a black tear shaped diamond. Black to show mourning, My 1st ring was a black diamond , a solitaire, shaped like a huge crystal tear. I felt it reflected my feelings, my solitude, my tears and I felt great comfort when it was placed next to my other rings. But, it was not comfortable with my other rings. So I began to search for another ring I could wear everyday next to my other rings. Someday, when I do take off my other rings, I will wear this ring as a solitary rembrance.
Although I was a hospice nurse and thought I understood the burden of loss, I did not expect an amputation of my soul with his death. I did not expect the abyss, the constant loneliness, the separation from all our friends and family. I did not accept the urging from the counselors, the family, the friends, the co-workers to accept the inevitable, to get the grieving done, to "move on". It meant to me - FORGET.
I would not, could not erase him from my heart and mind and soul. I will always remember - he remains a part of me.
The 1st time I checked off the box [ ] widow- my world crashed. I understood complete solitude - I was NOT married anymore. So what did the rings he had placed on my finger mean? Should I wear a wedding ring when I was not wed?, should I remove them and bury them in a box ? Should I wait for a year to have a barren, empty, lonley finger as well as my life?
No... I will not !
What made sense to me, what was right for me may not be an answer for anyone else.
What I NEEDED was something tangible, touchable, visible and with me constantly, something I would wear as long as I felt the need. Something that held the love, the commitment, something eternal that did not end.
I envisioned a mourning ring, a ring in memory of our love, a ring that showed "Gone was not Forgotten", a symbol that endured into eternity, that showed the continuing grief, that showed Who I was now. I had lost a partner, a love, a friend in this life and I had lost myself. Didn't he deserve more than "moving on?"
My search took months, of endless tearful nights on the internet (you can find anything on the internet). I searched "widow ring" - and got endless Halloween spider rings, a reference to a widows "mite' ring". I searched "mourning jewelry" and found antique and expensive mementos of a Victorian Era. I search "grief", "my husband died", "I am a widow now", "what now", "what do I do about my rings". I found nothing to signify that a marriage and our life together had suffered a terminal ending.
What should a Grieving Ring look like?
I wanted a ring- a black ring, maybe a black tear shaped diamond. Black to show mourning, My 1st ring was a black diamond , a solitaire, shaped like a huge crystal tear. I felt it reflected my feelings, my solitude, my tears and I felt great comfort when it was placed next to my other rings. But, it was not comfortable with my other rings. So I began to search for another ring I could wear everyday next to my other rings. Someday, when I do take off my other rings, I will wear this ring as a solitary rembrance.
